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Created page with "A shidduch is one of the early stages in the marriage process, which includes searching for compatibility between potential partners, meetings and inquiries, until completing the shidduch process with the decision that indeed the couple is compatible and marking this decision with a small celebration like a l'chaim or vort. The purpose of the shidduch is to add modesty to the process of finding one's match, and it is done according to Jewish custom through a third party..." |
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It is brought down that if the shadchan is particular about not receiving their due payment, it can cause harm, chas v'shalom, to the couple. Therefore, people are careful to pay the shadchan even if they don't demand payment and even explicitly say they don't want money. Nevertheless, we are concerned there shouldn't be damage to the couple, and we also try to satisfy with payment those who assisted with the shidduch. If there were several shadchanim who suggested the shidduch or several who helped complete it - one should clarify with a Rav how much and to whom payment is due. | It is brought down that if the shadchan is particular about not receiving their due payment, it can cause harm, chas v'shalom, to the couple. Therefore, people are careful to pay the shadchan even if they don't demand payment and even explicitly say they don't want money. Nevertheless, we are concerned there shouldn't be damage to the couple, and we also try to satisfy with payment those who assisted with the shidduch. If there were several shadchanim who suggested the shidduch or several who helped complete it - one should clarify with a Rav how much and to whom payment is due. | ||
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